How do you deal with jealousy?

errr yeah.. how do you deal with jealousy?


like, there's this girl that i know, not naming names ;)


but yerr.. and her life just seems so perfect, she's really pretty and has a really nice figure and has loads of mates and everything else, i won't go into detail because it's not fair to tell her information to the nation! ..that ryhmes


but yeah how do you cope with jealousy? cause it's just making me feel quite bad about myself :(How do you deal with jealousy?
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1 Identify what is causing the jealousy! If you are experiencing feelings of jealousy, take a minute to evaluate the situation and identify what it is that is making you jealous. Ask yourself why it is making you jealous. Knowing why you are jealous instead of just identifying what is making you jealous can help you to better understand where those feelings come from and how to deal with them.





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2 Don't assume in extremes! If you start feeling the pangs of jealousy about someone or something, keep telling yourself that the reasons behind any action or appearance can vary tremendously. Don't assume that your significant other hasn't returned your call because he/she is up to something. It could be that they are just really busy or don't have their phone on them. Don't assume that the neighbor who appears to have the perfect life really does have it all together because nobody's life is always perfect.





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3 Get all of the information! When you become jealous, it can sometimes lead to a negative and false conclusion. Instead of immediately taking that conclusion and running with it, make sure you have all of the details. This doesn't mean that you should grill someone with questions or resort to snooping and spying on someone. However, it is perfectly okay to ask questions. Getting all of the information about a situation can help you to squash feelings of jealousy because you are no longer left wondering. You have all the facts.





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4 Turn your jealousy into something positive! Instead of focusing on the negative emotions that jealousy can produce, look at it in a different light; such as an act of motivation. This can particularly useful for times when you may find yourself jealous of someone because they have something you want; such as a nice house or a new car. Pay less attention to the individual and more attention to what you can do to obtain it for yourself. By doing this, you will less likely become bitter about what you don't have and develop the drive to obtain the things that you want.





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5 Stop the comparisons! Comparing yourself to others is a sure fire way to bring on feelings of jealousy. By comparing yourself to others, you are creating a false sense of self-worth. Always keep in mind that everyone is different. Everyone has good qualities, bad qualities, mistakes, regrets, and accomplishments. Sure, that guy your girlfriend is talking to may be funny and charming, but she is with you for a reason. Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, make a conscious effort to stop and think about your good qualities instead.





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6 Always communicate! As with any other problem, communication is a key tool. Never keep your emotions bottled up as that could end up doing more damage in the long run. If you are experiencing feelings of jealousy, talk to someone about it. Not only could it help you to better identify where the jealousy is coming from, but your confidante may be able to help put those feelings at ease. If you discussing it with the person involved in your feelings of jealousy make sure that you avoid the blame game and don't address the jealousy in an accusatory manner.





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7 Build up your self-esteem! Studies have shown that jealousy is more likely felt by those who have a low self-esteem or insecurities about their own lives. So, take steps to learn how to appreciate yourself and your qualities. There are a number of ways that you can do this; such as stating positive affirmations each day, asking friends and family for support and encouragement, making a list of the aspects of yourself you are unhappy with and working to change them, or talking with a counselor.How do you deal with jealousy?
Just remember that old phrase ';the grass is always greener on the other side';





She may seem like she has it all, but she might be miserable. And even if she is happy, be happy for her and remember all the things you have.





TRUST ME. Having loads of ';mates'; is not always a good thing, in fact its hardly ever a good thing. A lot of pain and drama comes with that.














Believe me i know what it's like...I was in sports,and everygirl in that locker room was ';that girl';.





I come from a rich area and i don't have much money, and i never looked as good as they did in my opinion. But i realized recently I'M MUCH HAPPIER.





I have a simple life, and i don't have some incredible standards to hold up. You have a beauty of your own that she can never have. don't forget that.
Lol, I know what you mean. :(





And I guess you just have to view the negative stuff about them.





There's this girl I know who's really, REALLY pretty, like prettier than adriana lima, and I found out her life isn't really that good (cliche, but it's true). As a little girl, she had to get surgery on her ear because she couldn't hear well. She also has asthma. Her parents are getting a divorce. Etc...


She has to get up super early in the morning, like at 5. And of course self confidence, then they will seem less attractive to you xD
You have to realize that things aren't always what they seem. I remember feeling jealous about a co-worker. She was a very happily married woman. We became good friends and I learned that she had lost one son in an auto accident, her daughter was promiscuous and had 3 children, all with different fathers and another son who is a drug addict.


Once I really KNEW her I realized my life was pretty tame and easy. You just can't judge a book by its cover.
whats to be jealous about? everyone shines in there own ways beauty is just one that everyone feels if they dont have it they are less than someone that happens to have looks..the way you carry yourself aka charisma, character is stronger than beauty i gaurantee you..as a matter of fact ive actualy wished and still wish that i could be like certain people but i cant so i just do me and just find a role model that i admire and can learn from..dont let it getcha down, hey! theres 2 of us lol
There is no point to it. You are what you are as long as you're doing your best.





My experience is that girls who are so perfect in high school rarely end up living that life.





Usually its their own fault because they've come to believe that the world is the same as high school is whereas its quite different. When they can't cope their lives fall apart or they become very unhappy.





';That which does not kill us makes us stronger';. Neitche (I mis-spelled that name I think.
Oh ellie, its all illusion you must know that. No ones life is so perfect you MUST learn to be happy in yourself then People will be drawn to you. Your friend has problems you dont even know about im sure. And please, dont be tempted to be nasty to her because you are jealous, it isnt worth it. Karma is a *****.
If you haven't done anything to acquire a nice figure and friends you do not deserve to feel good about yourself. Only after you have accepted this can you begin to improve yourself to a point where you should actually feel good about yourself.
B Ur self dnt see any oDers life !!!


Live Ur life and look for Ur happiness nt sees oDers happiness