How to cope with jealousy?

My partner works with a woman who cracks on to all the men at work, including him ... leaving comments on there myspace like ';your so hot here can I have some'; so I can only imagine what she can be like in real life.





I don't have much in common with her and try very hard to be nice to her when I see her but she apparently still says things like '; does your girlfriend still hate me?'; at work which I don't find funny. Also when I met him after work once she faked a computer glitch so he'd have to be late to go fix it. And she's come round our house a few times with her sisters computer in tow.





I coped cos she was supposed to leave in Sep but now due to a work shuffle she'll be staying and has been promoted as his manager. For some reason this has made me feel very jealous, I know how much she flirts and he's told me this makes her attractive despite her low looks ... how do I beat my jealousy? I don't want him to know ....How to cope with jealousy?
Well all I can say to you is keeps your eyes on your man. I would tell her to back off and leave you and your man alone. She has no right doing that to the men at work. you should tell the other married men's wives about whats going on. And maybe it would be to tell him that you are jealous of her and just see what he says.How to cope with jealousy?
That nasty girl!





First off... i would be jealous to!





second ...even though everyone seems to think jealousy is a bad thing, it's a sign of caring. You obviously care a lot about your partner to be letting this get to you. I would let him know it upsets you but understand that unless you want him to quit his job theres really not much he can do besides assure to you he doesnt like her. If you lay low (which my fiance's ex girlfriend did back in the day) it may make him think you dont care as much.





Good luck!
that is my advice to you :


if she is going around your man be sure that she want something from him


ask your self what is that ?


I can see him want something from her too ??


so if you believe in your love let him do it with her and wait tell he get satisfaction from her ?!!


then he will return . do not afraid from her afraid from him


if he is really in love with you he will come back to you


just be faithfully to your love even he is not ?!


men always weak and caries too about what they do not have !! sorry that I am telling you that is the only way do you have ??????????
I would move away from near her and get my partner to get another job far away from her. The only problem is that there are always people like that wherever you go, so you have to leave it up to your man. In other words he is the one you have to trust.
And she is going to be his manager? I can see trouble in the future, she is not being very professional at all, that is so sleazy and how can your partner find that attractive? I agree,, you need to confront this woman and tell her your man is off limits, and if she keeps acting like a skank you will report her to her boss.
Jealousy drives open-ness undergrouond.
In this type of a situation...it seems very hard to beat the jealousy...you can tell your partner to maybe work somewhere else....ok maybe thats impossible..


Try being very honest and frank and confident and try telling your partner to avoid her. If he truly loves you and understands your feelings towards this situation...he will stop hanging around with that women...if that wont work then i have one last solution.


Start loving your partner as much as you can...maybe your love would be so stronge that he'd forget abt her flirting and all...take your partner out for lunch dinner whtever suites you most....spend as much time as you can with him..that way, he might stop liking her and the flirting wont affect him !!





Well i hope that helps !!


Good Luck !!
I think the only way to beat it is to tell him exactly what you wrote here. If it's too hard to talk to him about, start by showing him this page. I'm sure you're feeling a little better right now just having written about it. Tell him her behavior is inappropriate and it really affects you. Ask him what he can do for you to make you feel better about the situation. If you two have good trust in the relationship, and communicate well, your best shot is to talk it out. You don't want to just cope, because eventually, unless this woman goes away, the problem will continue to build until it affects the relationship. I know, I'm jealous too. They call it a ';Green-eyed Monster'; for a reason. A monster that feeds on relationships unless it's stopped. Best of luck!
You don媒 HAVE to be jealous.. Of course everuone is jealous from time to time, but remember: he's with you!! Not a very smart thing to say that the flirten makes her attractive though..
Act like you could care less. He seems to be enjoying your being jealous or he wouldn't keep talking about it. This will get very old real quick and the excitement will wear off. Hang in there!


In the meantime why don't you do some things to make you feel better about yourself like exercise, taking a class, or giving yourself a makeover?
Oh oh, so long as he is in the same co. things will get a little bit complicated. Can you suggest that he change job or something, tell him frankly that you can't stand her flirting. You got to let him know that you are jealous in order for him to know that you really love him. No assurance from him will make you feel ok unless he is out of her sight.
She flirts so she's attractive?? Ok at first i thought you were being the typical jealous type, but he sorta gave you a reason to be jealous........a guy should neva tell his girl another girl is attractive, its just wrong. There isnt really a whole lot you can do about it, jealousy is an emotion, and you cant just make it dissappear when you wish it would. So you have to find away to comprimise your jealousy, like inviting her over for dinner sometime.........Remember keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.............
tell her to put a cork in it...and yeah keep an eye on her as far as your man is concerned its obvious shes got self esteem issues and needs to bring her self up by putting people down...and her flirting does not make her attractive it makes her look like a hooker...