Jealousy question-need advice!?

My boyfriend and I have been serious for around 8 months. We are both 25 and have full time jobs. to make a long story short: he is the type that communicates with girls on a daily basis, by IM, text, email, Twitter you name it. it wouldn't be so bad, but he is an outward flirt and a reknowned ladykillers, as he likes to put it. He says I changed him and the usual, loves me and wants to marry me and I believe him...but he is an only child who hasn't had a solid relationship b4 and is also trying for a job in the entertainment industry. He says that he enjoys making a connection with other ppl on a daily basis, girl or guy. I get jealous bc he is constantly talking and charming all these girls and even exes and fans...it's hard for me. I need to know some coping mechanisms or if I need help. Bc he says he will never change and never stop talking with girls, for anyone...and it eats me up. It's straining our relationship bc he doesn't think I trust him and I am trying but also find it difficult since of his past reputation, and the way he is so girl crazy (self admittingly) and talks and 'connects' with them very often. How do I deal? Or act? Help!Jealousy question-need advice!?
You can see the red flags, but you're not paying attention.





This relationship is doomed. Get out while your sanity is still intact.Jealousy question-need advice!?
He's quite a handful to deal with. Normally I don't side with the ';jealous'; person but your situation is different. He's still young and immature. He's an only child and NEEDS attention. He will most likely always seek the praise and desire of others in order to feel good about himself.


Another mate may be easier to deal with and you will probably find you aren't that jealous after all.
You've pretty much answered all of your questions.He has a rep and he won't change and never had a serious relationship b4. Operative words here is ';won't change.'; Now it's up to you to decide if you're better off with or without him. Good luck.
Clearly he knows how his actions make you feel. I must say that you said something that really spoke volumes to me. You stated that he said he would not change for anyone. Doesn't this in itself say enough? It really shows that he has very little regard for how you feel.
I don't think this relationship is going to work.


You may love him and want to be w/him,but it will just make you crazy and un-happy,and you will not be satisfied.
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It's perfectly normal for you to feel uneasy if your guy is flirtatious with other women. At some point, when he's bored or when the relationship gets old, his flirtatiousness will create opportunities for him to be unfaithful. So, if that is who he is, can you see yourself choosing him to be the father of your children with those moral standards.





As much as it hurts, you two don't seem to be a match. But if you insist that you want to be with him, you should examine if he's communicating with only women or is it men also that he interacts with. As long as you are not in a committed relationship (an engagement ring and a firm wedding date), then now is the time to decide if he's the one. If not, move on. I know it's hard. But run for the hills while you can. Find someone who will adjust his behavior so that he's not constantly hurting your feelings. Or insist that this guy give you all his passwords and such so that you can check out what he's doing on a regular basis.
It takes a real woman to marry an athlete or a man in the entertainment industry. I give them props, some can deal with it others can't. My hubby was a huge high school and college star.....he never made it to the pros, but when i met him in college her certainly had a fan club. You have to trust him hun, do what you can to remind him on a daily basis how lucky he is to have you..sexually, emotinally, spiritually. Be secure with who you are, keep yourself in shape, eat right, workout, always look your best, TRUST me, there's always gonna be somebody that wants what you have. You have to sometimes fight for what you want...you guys are still young, live life, love one another, trust him, don't keep him on too short a leash...time will tell if you can handle this type of lifestyle or not. If you can't don't be hard on yourself. It's hard, you don't want to become an insecure, bitter, jealous woman, you don't want that reputation. Tell him everyday you love him and be sure he says it back and mean it!
This is a case in which the jealousy is created. Your boyfriend knows the cause of this little problem - and the cause is NOT you. He knows that what he does hurts you and makes you uncomfortable, yet he continues to do it and blatantly refuses to stop. That's NOT cool, my dear - and it's NOT your fault.





A man who honestly loves and respects his girlfriend will not be ';girl crazy'; and won't be so desperate for female attention. If he loves you as much as he claims to, he'd be bending over backwards to stop what he does. He'd be wanting to make you happy instead of being like ';Too bad so sad, deal with it'; when you come to him with hurt feelings. Guys like him are really good at making it about you %26amp; making you feel like you're the one who's ';so jealous'; and they'll even threaten to break up with you if you don't stop ';misbehaving'; but it's a total manipulation. You do NOT have to take that crap, and he absolutely DOES have to respect your feelings! If he won't, then he isn't a good boyfriend. Personally, I think you could do much, much better than some drama king!





So please, please please don't think this is your problem! It's not! If I were you, I would sit him down and tell him so. Don't back down from him. Get in his face, show your teeth and let him know straight up ';I respect myself, and I'm not fixing to sit around and let you disrespect me. Either you start respecting my feelings or we're done and you can go to hell in a handbasket!'; You have EVERY right to stick up for yourself and to protect your feelings. Your feelings are more important to you than they are to anyone else in the world, and if he can't treat them right then you don't need him.





Good luck!