Jealousy is ruining my relationship, what do it do?!?

been with my gf for about 8 weeks, it was all going great to start with but lately my jealousy problem has almost broke up our relationship. first this guy i knew started liking my gf, and then he really liked her, but he said he wasnt gonna do or try anything with her, she also said she would never let him do anything. then more recently a few more guys are liking her. i already get jealous quite alot anyway cause its my first relationship, but its just getting overwelming, last night me and my gf had a very emotional talk about how my jealously is affecting her and she cant cope any more. so if it carrys on we'll end up breaking up and i no neither of us wants that. the problem isnt that i dont trust her, its just the image of her with another guy (even though i no nothing would ever happen), i no im being very selfish and unreasonable but i cant help the way i feel, and sometimes its hard to dismiss the feelings of jealously. i care about her so much, it would kill me to lose herJealousy is ruining my relationship, what do it do?!?
You麓ve taken the first step, which is admitting that you have a jealousy issue, which shows that you are mature enough to recognize your own faults. It is natural to feel this way in a first relationship, but it has to be nipped in the bud. Coming from a woman麓s point of view, jealousy is unbearable in a relationship, and it can lead to much more serious things, like stalking and physical abuse. Jealousy is a form of emotional abuse and you need to stop it. Every time you feel jealous or want to confront your girlfriend about the slightest thing, just ignore it. Don麓t let the jealousy overcome you because she will get to the point where she feels like she麓s being suffocated and can麓t handle it anymore and will be forced to end the relationship.Jealousy is ruining my relationship, what do it do?!?
If she hasnt done anything, then you need to stop. But she also needs to make you understand and show you that she loves you and only you. My gf gets jealous and I would never do anything with anyone else, but i know sometimes she just gets scared she'll lose me or something like that, so i just sit her down and tell her how much I love her and that she's the only one for me. But trust her if you love her, only gets a problem if you suspect she's doing something.





Remember Dude, other guys may be trying things on, but its you she wants. Take some comfort from that.
Jelousy is caused from your insecurities. Your girl is with you for a reason. You already have her now it's just keeping her. Whenever you feel yourself getting jealous over something don't say anything just ask yourself why are you getting jealous and is it worth the price you'll pay getting jealous? Show your girl that you are not jealous and she'll love you even more. Good luck man.
I feel you on this one. I have had a jealousy problem recently because my significant other and i broke for a little while and got back together and all i can think about is did he mess around with other chicks while we were apart. The thing is, I try not to show if i can because i know it will pass, and that he loves me. So try to relax, know that you cant control other people and their actions any way so don't let your self be consumed with what other ppl are up to. Even if they like your girl friend, I mean you have to trust her to do the right thing.
You can't be in a relationship where there's no trust. Whether you see it or not the truth is that you don't trust her. You feel shi will someday fall and do something stupid with a guy. You sound a bit insecure. Listen, jealousy will ruin any relationship you will ever have. If she is talking to you about it is because she wants to work things out with you and she cares about you. Don't be a fool about this.
You are going to end up losing her. You are talking about 8 weeks, thats 2 months. Its obvious that you are young, so try to understand that at your age, you and her will have tons of friends from the opposite sex. What do you expect from her? To be bottled up and not have any friends or speak to anyone. You need to cut this habit b/c no woman/girl likes that.





Is it her fault she looks good and guys want her? No. Do you expect her to look like crap? you shouldn't b/c you are the one sporting her. You don't want something that looks bad. You should be happy that guys sweat your girl. Its not like she wants alone time with them, so don't sweat it.





Get off her back. Don't act jealous. Try to hold your tongue. And on the real, if your girl is a hoe and you know she's a hoe, then leave her. You can never change a hoe. Ask any guy. And your jealousy is only driving her away and if it does, it will only leave a bad taste in your mouth. All the girls and boys in school, will know why you guys broke up. You need to build a self-esteem b/c right now, shorty, has you running on low. You need to look good yourself. Once you feel good and confident, you look good. So stop it.
no nothen wrong feelen that way and all coz am thesame way but I would kill for my bf to be like that am not sayen I dont love him for the person he is I do but you what I mean the point is theres nothen wrong feeling that way im jealous myself and my bf thinks my gutt instincts is over taking me maybe at somepoint his right but still I keep my guards up a little bit theres nothing wrong if thats how oyu feel about your girlfriend I love my man and it kills me the image of another girl with him but he tellls me thesame way and all its good you talk to your girfriend about that some guys wont do that but really if you think she is worth it theres no true love that worth not fighting for you just have to watch out for her am not saying dont trust her but you should those guys are just probably jealous but you are already in the winning side of it your her bf that should be enough you love her right trust her its hard when you really care about somebody you dont want to lose her over this BS stuff but with those other guys you should be proud and let this haters hate
STOP being jealous....


I know it's hard but u hv gotta do it to keep the girl u love.


So u trust her. I hope she is trustworthy. Trust is also about earning it. What does ur gut say. If u truly feel there is nothing going on and she is sincere, then it's easy. Just let her know that u trust her, and u want her to hv friends and be happy.





But sometimes I have seen guys giving a girl too much space, and the girl ends up cheating on a guy who is basically too nice.





It really depends on what kinda girl u got. Is she strong, or the type who gets carried away with a lil bit of attention.





For your part, try to let her live the way she wants to, and u might see immediate positive changes. But also keep noticing whether she is being open and honest and transparent, or u feel like she is being vague and secretive. And most importantly, does she ';try'; to include u in her meetings with these other guys.
Ok so you don't trust the guys but you trust her, which is normal. Not to be conceited but my now hubby had the same problems, but then he said he finally realizes that he's the lucky on that has me. You need to look at it that way, your the lucky one that has her and she wants to be with you, not the other guys. Trust her to be faithful or it will ruin your relationship. You don't want to lose her over jealousy. Jealousy isn't worth losing someone you care about. If you are jealous, just don't show it, because it will make her to the point where she will stop talking to you and stop telling you how she feels or even about her day. You have to control it cuz it will ruin you! Good luck!
Jealousy will push her away. Get a grip.
well you are gonna lose her one day this is not a permanant relationship,it's a teaching relationship.Losing her will not mean that you are not man enough for her,it will mean that you two aren't meant to be forever.Most relationships are stepping stones to help each person learn about themselves and one day hope fully you take all you learn and settle into a real relationship.It does no good to be jealous because you have no control over some one else's feelings and if she wants some one else you have to hope she's honest enough to tell you and allow you to move on to your next lesson in love.
No, you aren't selfish, you are immature, and insecure, and too young....lighten up, grow up, and get over it.... and 8 weeks is barely enough time to call this a relationship, hon. Back off, or she'll find a guy who has he head on straighter.
I think you need to let loose a little bit you are going to have that just ignore it. Guys get jealous if guys look at there g/f its a normal thing my b/f does the same. Its best to ignore it or confront the guy about it if you don't want anything to happen between you and your girlfriend right.Just try it i promise it will work.


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Hey hon- no offense, but first of all you've got to stop being so dramatic. It would NOT kill you to lose her. You would go on with your young life and eventually you would both meet someone else.





You gf told you how the jealousy is affecting her. You need to show her respect by listening to her. If she is saying she can't cope anymore you are causing her a LOT of grief. If I were her mom or friend I would tell her to beware of a young man as possessive as you sound.





You say you can't help the way you feel - but YES- YOU CAN. Use your brain to control your feelings.





Keep in mind you 2 have only been a couple for 8 weeks- you aren't married. You say this is your first relationship. Maybe you aren't quite mature enough for a relationship yet. Lighten up. Try to just enjoy having fun and hanging out with your friend.