How to deal with trust/jealousy issues?

so my g/f is online a lot and she talks to a lot of guys, which is cool as everyone needs someone to talk to, but all the guys she talks to always end up making lewd dirty comments to her, she tells them/me she's not interested in them and that nothing will happen.


part of me knows that she's telling the truth this is where the problem is i always seem to jump to the wrong conclusion thinking that its all her doing, that she wants it.


how can i stop thinking like this, its starting to really get to me and her .


i don't want to ruin everything and i'm trying really hard to make a change in the way that i think (but that's a whole other issue).


how can i stop thinking the worst of every situation and what are some good coping strategies?


please help i think i'm going mad i've had enough of being eaten from the inside outHow to deal with trust/jealousy issues?
Ok, she makes it clear that shes not interested in these other guys after they have made lewd comments- how do they come to be made in the first place? Has she led them on with saucy chat, teasing, and then backs off when they take her up on it? Im looking to see how this 'always' happens to her. Or is it an occasional comment from a guy who's pushing his luck a bit?


The other side is- if she respected you as her b/f and this situation kept on happening would she not take steps to put an end to it?


Whats happened in your past- have you been cheated on in a previous relationship leading to insecurity? If so, then look at how she is with you- if she is totally wrapped up in you then actions speak louder than words. When shes chatting online take a deep breath and grit your teeth and remember how good the two of you are together. Each time your trust in her is tested and she proves she is trustworthy, your insecurity will be less. Every time you get jealous, bring up a warm happy memory of the two of you instead so gradually positive memories replace negative ones.


This may not help you much, but for myself I don't bother to waste my energy on worrying about being let down or cheated on like this- if they are going to do it, nothing I could ever do would stop it. Instead I make our time together so much fun they would rather be with me than anyone else.


Insecurity will drive her away faster than anything, so turn it back round into a positive relationship! Good luck!How to deal with trust/jealousy issues?
trust (in her) and confidence (in yourself)





This happens all the time. if you didn't have a girlfriend would you talk with friends (girls) they way these guys do? It's usually only harmless, but I can understand your point. She (your g/f) needs to tell these guys to please not talk to her that way. Because she allows it, you feel the way you do.
Please listen to me. If she has done nothing wrong, nothing to prove ur doubt in her, then just forget about it. Stop feelin suspicious and just trust her. Please, you dont want to lose her. I made this mistake with my now ex bf. You dont want to lose her if you care for her dearly.


If anything, discuss your concerns with her but never question her.


If she gets made at you for accusing her, just tell her that you love her and that you're afraid of losing her.
to be honest your gf knows what this does to you so she shouldn't talk to the guys that are making the rude comments. and i don't think you can learn trust i think it takes time to trust someone. but good luck she seems like a good catch and you seem like a good person so good luck!
i think your girlfriend likes the attention, but remains faithful to you.


you just have to think of it this way ; am lucky to have a popular girl like her.








but if things get weird, then theres a chance she's cheating on you?





sorry, hope i helped (:
ahhh thats exactly how i am with my b.f and i dont know what to do either its killing me. hope u find a way out
just trust and don't get jealous
Gosh I feel for you. It is one of those dammed if I do, dammed if I don't situations.





Under the circumstances you are bound to feel jealous. A little harmless flirting oils the wheels of all our feel good factors, but lewd dirty comments do not come out of nowhere.





I am sure that your girlfriend isn't cheating on you by distance relationships, but she has to know that setting herself up for comments like those is destructive. Not just to you and your feelings but ultimately how she feels about herself as well.





You know her better than any of us.Basically if you trust her then you have to start to make her understand that communicating with guys in such way that they fell free to abuse her is not in her best interests.





Explain that it is demeaning her and brings out your protective instincts. She will of course tell you that she doesn't need protecting!


It is an independence thing with all us women, we want it (protection)but on our own terms.





If you want her to stop doing something she obviously enjoys then you have to start planting seeds in her mind so that she begins to feel that the situation as it stands is not right. Maybe you being cool about it may even be enough.





Me, personally? I think it crosses a line she shouldn't be crossing if you two are in a committed relationship, so I am biased in your direction......





I hope you manage to get it sorted.
Hi, i get very wary when my boyfriend is online too. its not that i dont trust him really, i just know what girls are like when they want something!!....i can get very upset over it sometimes, and he notices which makes us both unhappy. I try and remember that it's me he's with and think back to all the good times we've had together! dont let these other men/Women get in between what we have because at the end of it all, if we bang on about it, won't they just leave us anyway!? remember that it's you she's with. xxxxxxxxx
Why does she need to be chatting online is what I want to know? I think when you're online and chatting to guys that there is only one reason they are contacting you. I know from speaking to women who are married and stuff that some of them go online to get an ego boost from these men.They either want cam sex or they want to flirt or meet up. Now Im speaking as a single person but I've still to meet a guy online who got in touch just because everyone needs to speak to someone....I reckon you'll never control your jealousy over it and neither would I. Tell her to take up a hobby or something that doesn't involve the chatting online or you could go online yourself and give her a run for her money and let her see all the girls who are flirting with you. That would soon bring out the green eyed monster in her and give her a shot of having those horrible insecure feelings that nobody likes to experience!