Coping with Jealousy?

My boyfriend and I are in a really rough patch due mainly to jealousy.


We've been together nearly 3 years and I would hate for it to end because of something that I think can be worked with.








He gets jealous of me hanging out with other guys. A lot of my friends are guys, nothing going on between us, but friends none the less.


I have invited him to come hang out.


He hasn't yet, but even still there would be the times where he's at work and I might not want to be stuck at home.








I guess what I am feeling is jealousy as well.


I get upset sometimes when he is hanging out with his friends. All his friends do is smoke weed pretty much. I know he does not do it to the extent that his friends are by any means, but for some reason it makes me feel upset.





I am looking for any tips on how to deal with these situations? Thank you so muchCoping with Jealousy?
What you would want to do is just relax, you two need your time apart, he has his buddies and you have yours. A little time from each other isn't bad, its actually good.. So you probably think your jealous, but in reality it seams like you want to hang out with him and his friends, and you feel like because he doesn't want to hang out with you, it means a war has to start...





Give him some space. In the mean time, make some female friends to hang out with, so he won't get jealous.





Good luck,


-JesseCoping with Jealousy?
Dump the chump! Anyone who smokes weed is killing his brain cells. He will just get weirder and weirder. Get far, far away from him.
GET OVER IT!!! That is what I do. You deserve to hang out with your friends, and he deserves to hang out with his friends.
I do not think everyone your age smokes weed, but i do believe that everyone you know currently may do......that is going to cause issues....but i am going to ignore it completely other than to say....i wish i never had smoked it, and i am glad i quit!





ok as for the jealousy.....its a horrible thing for the jealous person, and for then person they are jealous about......so it isnt good for either of you!





i have added an addy for a site....hope it can help you get some tips about fixing you both of jealousy!!





A little jealousy can be good, it shows you care and dont want things to go wrong....but you sound like this is becoming a big part of your relationship.....so its going to need to be sorted!!








Good luck, i hope it goes good for you both, and please....consider getting away from the cannabis!!
Jealousy is a basic human emotion arising from the longing for another person's success, fame, riches or status. We all feel it at some point in our lives and it's normal. But, extensive jealousy may very well be caused by a deeply embedded anger against a person, society or even your own self. Excessive jealousy is often the result of low self-confidence and self-esteem about oneself. Socially, jealousy may mean a sensed threat to a harmonious relationship. Either way, jealousy can be classified in to several categories, so let's take a look at each type and how to cope with jealousy.





Healthy Jealousy





Jealousy is not always harmful. In certain relationships, such as marriages, jealousy is natural, because partners tend to be possessive of each other. Ordinary envious reactions rearing it's not-so-ugly head is perfectly alright, as long as the persons involved make it all clear to each other. Learning how to cope with this type of jealousy is not difficult, because it's mild and occasional and doesn't need a lot of mind-training.





Destructive Jealousy





This is definitely what you should do everything in your power to avoid. Destructive jealousy is when you frequently, intensely and irrationally jealous. Such uncontrollable jealousy is always harmful and should be eliminated and if to do so, first you must learn how to cope with jealousy.





Tip 1: Identify The Root Cause





Knowing the cause for jealousy in any situation is the first step towards overcoming such negative emotions. Your own insecurities and unresolved feelings are often the reasons for feeling jealousy towards another. You will have to follow self-confidence building exercises and techniques to overcome self-esteem issues.





Tip 2: Take A Reality Check





If you are in a relationship and you think there's a threat to it from a third party, how sure are you about it? Could it just be the way you are seeing it? Perhaps, you are mistaken. Don't let your assumptions get in the way of a healthy relationship just because you feel jealous based on imagined problems.





Tip 3: Positive Thinking





Like in every situation where negative emotions get in the way of rational thinking, positive thinking helps. When jealousy burns, try thinking of better things. So, your colleague got a promotion and you feel envious because you think you deserved it better? Think of the bonus you got on Christmas last year or how fantastic it was to get that pay raise.





Tip 4: Seek Objective Opinions





Get the perspective of a neutral party. If you are often behaving jealously, they will tell you, but only if you ask in all honesty. Knowing is half way to resolving, so get someone else's opinion.





Tip 5: Find Reassurance





Communication is always the key to resolving issues, so always find reassurance from people around you, if you feel like you are going overboard with jealousy. The best way to seek help is by talking about whatever that's bothering you and causing the problems.





Jealousy is generally the result of deeply embedded long-term issues, such as anger, anxiety, frustration and inadequacy. An inferiority complex or low self-esteem will make jealousy a front to vent out its wrath, so focus on eliminating all negative emotions.
What do you gain by being with someone who doesn't think much of themselves already?





He smokes weed....okay, so what is he trying to hide from, make up for? Someone who would rather get high than deal with reality and make their life better....is looking for the easy way out. If you're stoned, you don't have to think about making your life better.





What kind of future can you possibly have with someone like this who's going nowhere fast?





Instead of jealousy,....I'd ask myself this question:


Can I do better than this? And why don't I find someone who's going somewhere, doing something with his life....rather than hanging out with someone who doesn't care and slacks off with drugs?





I'd find out why you think so little of yourself to be around someone like this. And fix that issue.