or even if you know that you do not like each other enough to be with each other but enough to be friends and have sex,
how do you mentally cope with it?
Are some people just good at dettaching themselves?
Isnt it asking for trouble?
what if they start dating someone or start liking someone else?
How much jealousy is involved?
Im just intriged because someone i know has done this, i know you cant enter his head and tell me how it works for him but any suggestions/experiences??
Im just curious because i think id find it very hard and i find it hard to understand not so-called morally but how you would deal with it emotionally... thanksHow can someone psychologically cope with having casual sex with a friend?
Well it might be difficult balancing act but people have certainly done it. You probably don't hear people talking about it because it's not something that those particular people bring up. It's not a question of not being close it should question of understanding the circumstances. The difficult part is to people that think in the same way. As other people said here one is going to get may be more emotionally attached and the other.
You ask her some people good it just detaching themselves.... yes they certainly are
If either party decides to go out dating someone else then there's always the possibility that the other casual person might get jealous.... but again that depends and helped attach they are and how they treat the situation.
How does your friend do it.... they're just dealing with the reality of the situation... and probably already have it in their head that this person will move on and find someone else.
You ask any experiences.... yes I have had this experience before. It was good but I think only because we both treated as a casual situation. But I doubt that most could do it because it involves separating yourself from that persons daily activity or other things they do.
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AdviceManHow can someone psychologically cope with having casual sex with a friend?
i counted 8 questions, so i decided to say, people have sex because they want it, enjoy,and need it.. there are no morals in peoples mind if they want sex, then they are gonna do it, no matter what anyone says about them or their age. they just do it if they want, all the bit*ch*ing aint gonna stop them....
This socalled morally is called thinking with your D*I*C*K and that's all it is for a guy. It's got nothign to do with emotions and feelings it's all about having sex, when and where and with whomever you can get if from. Friends, gf, older woemn or whoever as long as it is just sex and move on to teh next one.
All of these are wonderful questions, but you won't find an answer from anyone that will help you to understand. The only way for you to know, is to go through with the experience and then cope with your feelings and thoughts afterwards...
...sometimes you just have to burn your hand on the stove to understand that it's hot.
The thing with the whole ';friends with benefits'; is that one person in the mix ALWAYS develops some kind of feelings over time, when the other person doesn't. I was really stupid and my ';friend'; was my male roommate and I didnt see the signs that he was falling in love with me until it was way too late. We were actually what I would probably consider ';casual dating';. We would go out and have dinner/drinks and even dancing. Then we would go home and do the nasty. But then the next day, he or I would be going on a date with someone else, but the thing is-we never slept with anyone else the whole time we were together. It is never a good idea to throw another problem into the equation, but for some it actually does work fine. It is a way for someone who wants the sexual satisfaction of having one partner that you can trust without really having the relationship behind it. A lot of people use Friends so that way they aren't just sleepin with some random person and are with someone they trust all the time. Plus, you are always more comfortable around an old friend than someone you haven't known for that long. I was able to easily detach myself and not allow feelings to become involved. As for the being attracted-99% of the time, Friends with Benefits starts with drunken sex and then the next day they are embarrassed and after that, it slowly turns into a more often and casual thing.
First of all, feelings are going to arise if you keep having sex with the same person. It's like how smiling will make you feel happier (scientifically proven fact, btw). But if you just do it once and never again, I can see how you can still be friends with no emotional attatchment.
I don't think you can! Sex is a very intimate thing, and when you find someone you deeply love, it would take away from that relationship, because you have already slept with many other people.
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