It probably sounds like typical sibling jealousy rivalry because 'she has something and I don't and it's not fair', but I'm honestly just concerned with her behavior as our mum genuinely doesn't seem to care.
Anything that she feels like doing, my mum'll change sides to and back it up -
If she doesn't feel like going to school, my mum lets her.
If she wants a toy, my mum buys it for her, even though we're broke.
She intentionally punches everyone and my mum finds it funny and encourages her.
She'll scream if I try to feed her anything nutritional that doesn't consist of chips.
No matter how I try to disipline her myself, it doesn't seem to work because she'll just go to my mum and then she'll get her way.
I'm not sure if I'm being too strict, as I was brought up pretty strictly because of my dad so seeing the kind of things that my sister gets away with is unnerving. If I had ever been mouthy I woulda gotten a spanking. xD
And advice please?How to cope with a spoilt kid?
is not the kid its your mom, your issue needs to be with her. since she just doesnt seem to care i would be a little brutal about it. yes she is your mother and has athority, but that shouldnt stop you from speaking the issues. your mom will get mad and will start yelling if you dont back off the subject, but this means that your getting to her. blind accusations will not do anything but if she gets mad that means she knows its true. do not stand back and let your mom do this or things will turn out bad for your sister in the long run.
keep to solid evidence
stand your ground
and be persistent, your mother will eventually try to find a way out of it, grounding, sending you to your room or whatever it is your mom does. she will think she doesnt have to take it and she wont, all at once at least. bring it up every time there is an incident and eventually something will change
also do not just let her shrug you off, on top of the persistance you need to raise your voice if staying quiet fails. her just saying your stupid is shrugging you off and insulting you, get angry and dont take it, you have every right to do soHow to cope with a spoilt kid?
You are not the parent and should not pretend that you have that authority. Love your sister, don't try to boss her. She is a little child and probably is spoiled, but you probably were, too (more than you are willing to own up to). Hopefully one day, you will have a close relationship. She probably looks up to you.
I would recommend that you try to arrange a meeting between you, your mom, and someone your mom respects or a therapist. At the meeting, have an open discussion about the concerns that you have and that spoiling your sister is not in her best interest. The therapist or adult family member or friend of your mom should keep the discussion civil and open. Good luck!!
Live and let live.
There is nothing you can do about it, so you just need to mellow out and enjoy life as much as you can. Nothing good will come from dwelling on this issue.
not alot you can do really ,,talk to your mom, or just deal with it.Remember its not the kids fault!!
if she will learn to respect you than you can respect her just ignore her until she does what u want
super nanny looooooooooool nah ma sista's like dat 2.
uu need to talk to your mum about this, and how you feel.
Take away all the things she takes for granted and see what she thinks
Seriously!
Be harsh and stand your ground! Do NOT let the child take control.
You could start by taking things away and having them earn them back one by one. Grounding always worked as well. They need structure and to respect you, so do not let them out of time out early or let them talk back to you. They will love you later.
Make sure both parents agree, and discipline together otherwise the child will not learn to respect one of the parents (in this case you).
Good luck! :)
don't pay any Attention to her walk away and if some ONE ask say i didn't hear her just play dumb as much as you can she will get the hint that you don't want any thing to do with her and when she asks tell her and put it nce and make her think its all her fault that way she knows it is be nice that way when mom says something to you just play dumb and say that's not what i said that's what i did to my nephew and grandma and pa he could do no wrong and my kids were always the problem After 3 days he changed and doesn't act like that around me
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