Monday, August 16, 2010

Why does my sister in law always feel like she has to compete with me?

My sister in law competes with me on everything and im sick of it. She is always trying to undermind and outdo me in everything... in fact according to her she supported us for a year (a blatant lie)...Even though we survived on our own for three years prior... if we ask her for a favor she rubs it in our face . She is always making rude remarks about how she does everything better then me ( in a subtle but obvious way) she's always comparing our children and anything and everything she can find to compete with me she does. Im tired of it. She acts as though she's better then us, and shes an attention monger... always trying to get people to take her side and feel sorry for her.. To make matters worse she comes to our house and takes things without asking. She's jealous when she shouldnt be. Because shes had everything handed to her while my husband and I have had to work hard to survive because we didnt have the help that she had. How do I cope with her jealousy and need to compete?Why does my sister in law always feel like she has to compete with me?
She's insecure....She victimizes you... It's not right.





Make a decision to give her issues NO power in your life. You need to take this into your own hands... not to hurt her...but to keep her from hurting you and your family. Get the house re-keyed Don't ask her for any favors (no matter how inconvenient it is for you). Maybe distance yourself so the kids don't spend so much time together. Ignore her comments.Why does my sister in law always feel like she has to compete with me?
Insecurity,jealousy,a victim and she is a women. Any Questions?
women always have to compete about everything!
firstly tell her how much you appreciate all her help in the past. then try to repay her favour. and never ask for any favour from her again. she thinks that just because she has helped you..she owns you.be a bit cold with her when she takes your stuff.stay aloof but tell your hubby to repay all her debts instantly.
Kill her with kindness. When she has something new, brag it up. If she believes she is not getting to you, she'll likely quit this behavior or move on to someone else to belittle.
she flat out hates you. Just dont ask her for anything or do anything for you , leave her a lone and move on with your life without her, just smile and say fine what ever to her
was her and her brother close when they were younger? maybe thats why because you have his attention now.. i know my sister in law thinks she is better and sometimes trys to throw it in my face .. but her brother(my husband ) was a father figure to them cause there dad was not there.. or she just has issues there are people like that.. just try treating her the way she treats you.. its hard but for example when i lived with his family they would go through my drawers so what i did is stuck a note in there telling them did they like what they see and i had sex toy and sexy stuff in there , i think they stopped after that.. good luck
Don't let her get under your skin. Do your own thing and don't worry about her. I think you hit the nail on the head, with the attention monger remark. Just consider the source.
She has an inferiority complex and feels unsafe and always under tension that some day you will be superior than her.
She is jealous and insecure. Also she doesn't have any taste of her own and can only copy others. If she is stealing, you will have to tell your brother. I would tell her she's not welcome any more.
FIRST OFF DONT ASK HER FOR NOTHING IF YOU CAN KEEP FROM IT,DONT TALK WITH HER ANY MORE AND YOU NEED TO TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND TELL HIM HOW SHE ACTS IF HE DONT ALREADY KNOW AND SAY YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT HER AND IF HE DONT THEN YOU NEED TO AND IF SHE WOULD COME OVER I WOULD TELL HER THAT SHE WASNT WELCOMED IF SHE WAS GOING TO BE LIKE THAT I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THINGS LIKE THIS
place a call down to your feet and tell them that you are getting ready to kick an ***, so be on the up and up please
whenever two persons of same kind come to face each other same thing happens. she might be feeling same for you and hence the result. try to remove that element that you are competing with her and she will understand herself that what she is doing is not remarkable and will stop it. it is hard and will take time. all the best..........
I know what your going through. You (and your husband if he wants) could talk to her and tell her that you are tired of her spreading lies, being competitive, etc. Tell her that you are family and you love her - you want to be friends and be supportive, you want to know you can depend on her without her throwing things in your face. Being straightforward and honest and giving her a chance to tell you how she feels/why she does the things she does might be a good thing.


The other thing you can do is just ignore her undesirable behavior. When she starts acting jealous or doing whatever she does - don't even bat an eyelash, just ignore her - she will get the hint.


Talking to her might be more productive though, as you might be able to actually work the problems she has out and start fresh.
If this is affecting your life style , you should confront her about your problem with her.Tell her straight that you can't stand her ways and it's making you sick.


She's just insecure and unconfident about herself and doesn't know how to deal with it.
its very simple...ur sister in law is insecure wit you....coz no other reason behind dat....
maybe because she's a hater
she is a inlaw. nobody really gets along with all of their spouses family , maybe she is trying to keep the rest of the family on her side , maybe she is afraid they will like you more
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