Monday, August 16, 2010

Jealousy!?

I think every relationship deals with jealousy sometimes. But it seems like my bf gets jealous over everything! and it causes stupid problems.. i admit i get jealous easily too but i try to thiknk about the positives.. does anyone know how to cope with this?? and i dont want to end the relationship hes good to me... its just.. thats the problem....?Jealousy!?
ok, I have the same problem....





I'm not kidding. You see, everyone is born with certain natures. just like ';sin-nature';. Deep down inside of everyone there is a sin nature.... but thats not the topic we are talking about. Have you tried looking at the bible to see what God says about jealousy??? Thats what helped me. If so and you didn't find anything or you did but you just didn't tell anyone you should try that.





Just incase you don't HAVE a bible, Here's a little serman i found on jealousy:





P.S: please read it and show it to your freind. DON'T JUST OVERLOOK IT!!





Question: ';What does the Bible say about jealousy?';





Answer: When we use the word jealous, we use it in a sense of being envious of someone who has something we don't have. This kind of jealousy is a sin and is not characteristic of a Christian – instead it shows that we are still being controlled by our own desires (1 Corinthians 3:3). Galatians 5:26 says, “Let us not become conceited, or irritate one another, or be jealous of one another.”





The Bible tells us that we are to have the perfect kind of love that God has for us. “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). The more we focus on ourselves and our own desires, the less we are able to focus on God. When we harden our hearts to the truth, we can not turn to Jesus and allow Him to heal us (Matthew 13:15). But when we allow the Holy Spirit to control us, He will produce in us the fruit of our salvation, which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). James 3:15 says, “For jealousy and selfishness are not God's kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and motivated by the Devil.”





Being jealous indicates that we are not satisfied with what God has given us. The Bible tells us to be content with what we have, for God will never fail or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). In order to combat this, we need to become more like Jesus and less like ourselves. We can do this by forming a personal relationship with God. We can get to know Him through Bible study, prayer, and church attendance. As we learn how to serve others instead of ourselves, our hearts will begin to change. “Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is” (Romans 12:2).





I hope i helped you out. But.... ya knowww,,,


it wasnt really me. Its ALLL God.Jealousy!?
It's only a matter of him being honest with himself and facing the fact that sometimes he feels he's not good enough. You can reasure him everyday he is the one, but the only way to get this through his head is for him to hace the issues that make him feel less, he can do it by himself if he is willing to work on his flaws, or he can go to therapy to work it out.





Good luck.
i have the same problem as yours.my bf has admitted to me why he is so jealous,its bcoz he is so insecured that i might fall in love to another man.Instead of arguing,i just ignored his jealousy and showed him how much i love him.
Jealousy is a problem in every relationship, eve when its turned around and you deal with the person who never gets jealous. Jealousy can be a healthy way for you to know he cares but too much jealousy can be a problem. You need to talk to him. Let him know how much you like him and reassure him that you aren't interested in anyone else. Don't be afraid to admit that his jealous actions are pushing you away. Relationships are never easy but if he's worth it, go for it, you won't regret it.
My husband and I are generally jealous people, and we struggled with it a lot in the beginning. It will help to ensure him that he is the ONLY man you have eyes for. Guys are really just little boys and need constant reassurance that you think they're wonderful, sexy, strong, smart..... pretty much that you think they're the best thing on Earth, and he may lighten up a little. And really watch your flirting, as that will put you right back at point A. Tell him that you appreciate that he wants you all to himself, but to ease up- you're not going anywhere, and it only makes you feel like you're walking on egg shells for him to be jealous of every other guy that glances at you. Hope this helps! =)
really the only thing you can do is talk to him and make sure he understands that you like him and no one else. yeah you may talk to other guys but they mean nothing to you like he does.
try to understand where he's coming from and try to avoid making him jealous. If he persists, it's not a good sign and you need to talk to him about it. Then maybe leave him. Jealousy can turn into controlling and into abuse.
umm sit down with him and explain to him that the only guy you love is him and that nothing is going to happen between you and some other guy. Tell him you get jealous of him sometimes to
If u dont like it then tell him! Explain to him that just b/c u talk to a guy doesn't mean u wanna take it further. Just like when he talks to girls he doesn't take it further either. Ur both gunna have to come to a compromise or break up, sorry.
In my relationship we have the same issues. We do what we can not to make the other person feel insecure, cause that's where the jealousy comes from.
All relationship have jealousy in them. Believe me my last girl friend was like that. All it did was cause problems and let to our break up.
Get help
Jealousy is not bad because it only shows that you are being loved and cared.Well,it is natural feelings(negative maybe)from someone who truly loves you and worrying about you.In my case,I won't ever get jealous if I don't have much feelings to someone.But too much jealousy is bad.It sometimes kills relationship.So to avoid your loved one to feel too much jealousy,you should make him feel that you really loves him.He must trust you for you are serious with him and he is the only one who owns your heart.
Well first of all I am sorry you are having this situation. I know it might be hard on you. But don't worry relationships have it's ups and downs.. what you need to do is sit down with your partner and have a good and long conversation about it.. many people try to find a complicated answer to their problems and the solution most of the time is on a good conversation. Just tell him how that is making you feel. and that you love him and you don't want to lose him, and don't be afraid ask him why is he like that? Tell him he needs to trust you... ofcourse don't get upset. remember it's just a conversation not.. who is right or who is wrong.. good luck and I hope you resolve everything..


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